How to Raise an Optimistic Child
If we approach life with a negative, pessimistic standpoint, it will be far harder to find happiness and contentment. Without an element of optimism, we will find ourselves in a constant state of worry and disapproval. With that said, parents should try and raise optimistic children, so that they are ready to face life’s challenges with a smile on their faces. Of course, this is easier said than done, which is why I have teamed up with a junior school in Surrey to share some advice on helping your child become more optimistic.
First of all, you should bear in mind that children learn by observing their parents and other influential people in their lives, such as grandparents and siblings. The way that you behave and your outlook on life will resonate with your child and they will start to act and think in the same way. As a result, it would be wise to demonstrate optimism and positive where possible if you want your child to have a similar attitude.
So, let’s say you have an important meeting coming up at work that you’re worried about. Don’t let your child see that you’re worried! Instead, try and act confident around them so that they can feed off of your upbeat energy. Another example is if your child has a test coming up at school. Remind them that you’re proud of them no matter what the result and that as long as they try their best, that’s all you can expect. This will help ease their nerves and boost their self-esteem. The trick is to use positive and enthusiastic language around your child, like “You’re going to be great in the test today, I’m so proud of you” or “I’m sure my meeting will be a success as I’ve spent lots of time preparing”.
Be sure to have open and honest conversations with your child about the fact that life is full of ups and downs that we cannot avoid. That way, when something bad happens it will come as less of a shock to your child. Let them know that when these setbacks happen, we shouldn’t let them hold us back. Instead, we should learn from any mistakes that were made, whether they were our own or someone else’s, and move forward in a confident way. Try and help your child experience as many uplifting and positive things as possible, to show them how wonderful life can be and counterbalance any stress or other negative emotions.