TEACHING YOUR CHILD TO OVERCOME OBSTACLES
If we want our children to face challenges head-on we need to teach them the skills to approach stumbling blocks with a positive mindset. Children who have a can-do attitude when it comes to obstacles in their path are more confident in their ability to work through them and achieve their goals. If you want to know how you can encourage your child to overcome problems rather than retreating from them, read on for some advice from a senior school in Yorkshire.
One of the most important things we can do as parents to help our children tackle challenges positively is to model an optimistic outlook ourselves. Try to show your child through your own approach to difficult situations that it’s possible to work through and resolve them. Demonstrate confidence in your own ability to solve problems so that they learn to behave in a similar way. Show how you persevere through difficulties to get something you want and encourage your child to do the same.
Give them responsibility
Letting your child take responsibility for certain things will boost their self-esteem and confidence in themselves and their capabilities. They’ll learn that they don’t have to retreat from challenges as they are capable of rising to them using skills they’ve developed and moving past them to get what they want.
Resist the urge to jump in too quickly and rescue your child when you see them struggling with something. Giving them time and space to work things out for themselves encourages them to act independently without relying too much on others to solve a problem for them or fulfil a need. Support them in stepping out of their comfort zone often so they regularly stretch their capabilities, which will increase their confidence even further.
Help your child understand that even if they aren’t able to solve a problem or overcome an obstacle, failing is normal and a necessary part of growth. If you frame failures as learning opportunities and encourage your child to always identify the positives in difficult situations, they’ll be more likely to continue challenging themself and trying new things, rather than shying away from activities which stretch them.
We all want our children to try new things and give them a go so they can reach their full potential. If we demonstrate optimism in our own actions, nurture our child’s independence, and give them a level of responsibility while normalising failure we’ll give them a good head start when it comes to tackling life’s challenges head-on.